I live in NYC completely car free, I take the subway everywhere and I just can’t imagine my life without a good transportation system. I would genuinely recommend anyone who lives in a hostile area with no transit move.

If possible take the trains, if there are no trains take the bus, if there are no busses bike, if no bike than walk, if you cannot walk because the infrastructure is that hostile move to somewhere with trains (like NY or Chicago but ideally NY)